Often misunderstood as mere obsession or infatuation, stalking is in fact a deliberate and calculated pattern of behavior designed to exert power and control over a victim, frequently by a current or former intimate partner. Through relentless surveillance, harassment and intimidation, stalkers aim to strip their victims of autonomy, dignity and a sense of safety making it a critical component of domestic violence that demands attention, understanding and action.
Stalking is a form of domestic violence that involves a pattern of behavior where one person follows, monitors or harasses another person, causing fear or emotional distress. In the United States, approximately 61% of female victims and 44% of male victims are stalked by a current or former intimate partner (Source; Bureau of Justice Statistics). According to National Coalition against Domestic Violence, stalking is a crime in all 50 states, yet only 1 in 5 victims report stalking to police. Most victims are tracked using technology such as GPS or hidden cameras, software to hack into their phones.
Have you been wondering what exactly we mean by stalking? Let’s peruse through this together.
- Stalking involves following or spying. This involves the perpetrator physically following the victim or spying on them, either in person or through the use of technology such as GPS tracking devices or hidden cameras. The stalker may show up at the victim’s workplace, home or other places they frequent making the victim feel like they are constantly being watched.
- Unwanted contac Stalkers may make unwanted contact with their victims through phone calls, texts, emails or messages on social media. This can include threatening or harassing messages or simply excessive contact that makes the victim feel uncomfortable or anxious.
- Stalkers may engage in surveillance behaviors such as monitoring the victim’s online activities, social media accounts or email communications. They may also use technology to track the victim’s location or activities, making the victim feel like they have no privacy.
- Showing up. Stalkers may show up at places the victim frequents such as their workplace, home or favorite coffee shop. This can be a way of exerting control over the victim and making them feel like they are being constantly watched.
- Gift giving. Some stalkers may give gifts to their victims, which can be a way of exerting control and making the victim feel obligated to the stalker. These gifts can be unwanted and may come with threatening or harassing messages.
- Threats and intimidation.Stalkers may use threats and intimidation to control their victims, making them feel afraid or anxious. This can include threats of physical harm, emotional manipulation or damage to the victim’s property or reputation.
How can we possibly deal with stalking? There are several ways which include;
- Documenting or keeping a record of stalking incidents. This can help one track patterns and provide evidence if you need to seek a restraining order or press charges. Write down dates, times, locations and details of what happened including any witnesses or photos.
- Report stalking to law enforcement. Report to police or local law enforcement agency, even if you don’t have evidence. They can help you file a report and provide guidance on next steps. If you are in immediate danger, call emergency services.
- Seek a restraining order. This can prohibit the stalker from contacting or approaching you. To get a restraining order, you will typically need to fill out a petition and appear in court. A lawyer or advocate can help with the process.
- Increase security measures. Take steps to increase your personal security such as changing your daily routine, using a secure phone or computer and varying your routes to work or school. Consider investing in a security system or alarm for your home.
- Reach out for support. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from friends, family or a support group. Talking to someone who understands can help you feel less isolated and more empowered to take action.
- Trust your instincts. If you feel like you are being stalked, trust your instincts and take action. Don’t downplay or ignore the situation. Stalking can escalate quickly, so it’s essential to take steps to protect you.
Conclusively, stalking is a serious and often overlooked form of domestic violence that can have devastating consequences for its victims. It is essential to recognize the signs of stalking, take victims seriously and provide them with support and resources to help them regain control over their own lives. B y working together to raise awareness, promote education and advocate for policy changes, we can create a society where stalking is acknowledged as the serious crime it is, and victims can live free from fear and abuse.
