So when I entered church I started looking around for Stella, like you can go to All saints to see your friend or like you go to St Francis to see Sarah, I kept looking around until when the service ended but Stella was nowhere to be seen. And Stella was so prayerful but I kept wondering why she had missed church. So when we moved out, I still looked around but I couldn’t find her. That day God blessed Pr. Garry Skinner and he preached from only one scripture. He said you don’t have to know the whole bible, I had read the bible at my mother’s home, even at Kyebambe when I was in church ,I would listen to the preaching, and at St. Francis where I used to pray on Sunday. Uncle Ben Mugarura would preach the gospel. He would make an altar call at 7 O’clock, one at 9 and another one at 11.You would feel as if the gospel is cutting through your body but I would pretend and stay in my seat for so many times. So that day you listened to the sermon of Pr. Skinner? The man mentioned only one scripture, Mathew 11:28 “Come to me, you are heavy ladened, let me say it in English because I may not say it well in Runyankole. “Come to me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest”
He would say it so many times, he would mention pain, I really had pain from S.1 when I left my mother’s home. A Girl of S.1 is normally 13 years and is young. I had that pain of not going to Makerere College for A ‘level and for not doing medicine at Makerere University. You know when you’re in Makerere and everyone knows that you’re a student of Makerere but deep inside you. During that time, we used to do makeup, you do the face, put lipstick. You would wear your nice dress and shoes and you do the nails but you would be lying because you have a lot of pain inside you when the heart has not healed If Jesus is not in your heart Even if you put makeup, you would be pretending That’s the situation I was in. I started crying and the tears made my handkerchief wet and others were dripping on the floor and that stopped me from walking to the front. So they kept calling us to go and they made altar calls for about 6 minutes.
He started explaining that if you are there and have no peace and you feel that your body is burning and you have tears in your eyes, Jesus is asking you to come, the man really begged us. May God bless Pr. Garry Skinner. He continued and continued but I stayed in my seat as you know how students can be proud. They normally have that pride of how will people see me? A university student doesn’t get saved that easily, Doesn’t get saved easily? Just say she/he doesn’t get saved at all and how do people see you? But the Jesus you refuse is the one who will take away the pain that you have inside .But I was seated on the chair , my tears were all over the floor and my neighbours were all watching. He repeated , if you there, Jesus is here to talk to you. Then my heart started At the front, I was seated up in the gallery and you know how big Watoto Church is. There some churches that have short galleries but for Watoto you have to walk from up and slope down the stairs and then walk the aisle up to the front. But as I was coming from upstairs, I said, God if your there, am heading to the altar so that you take away the pain that I have inside me and on the 24 am at Watoto looking for Stella but it was Jesus calling me.
He was directing you to be saved, Stella is a girl who grew up from Kampala and so every weekend she would travel to her home village in Kataka And all that was done by God, At Watoto they have a policy that everyone is prayed for alone, so there was aline of intercessors ,so they would help you. When I said a prayer of accepting Christ, God I accept that am a sinner and indeed am a sinner. Talk about fornication you think it’s the only problem in this world? Even if you don’t fornicate, you can have many other sins like stealing, pride and others. You said the prayer and completed it?When I allowed him into my heart, the tears dried instant and I didn’t even use a handkerchief to dry them. But on 24.09.1995 I received peace from heaven and it covered me and that was my first healing. I became a born again and it was holiday time and my step mother was still alive. She saw you but didn’t notice. I didn’t tell her because at home, I was so quiet. By the way when my stepmother’s young children grew up they started answering her back when they became teenagers, then she started wondering why I was not doing the same as her children.
But when she opened my room, she found me on my kneels praying and when the maid had finished cleaning all the rooms, then my stepmother started to check the rooms to see if they had been cleaned well and then she found me reading the bible. I remember my parents passed in 2000 but during Christmas in 1999,we were all seated in the house and we had finished having dinner as you know the excitement of Christmas and my stepmother was enjoying the evening with all her children. My stepmother said words that I still recall even today because it’s the Christmas I celebrated without my parents. She said my children I kindly ask you to be like Sarah. I want you to love God, pray and read your bible like Sarah and study like Sarah. I think at that time I was doing my post graduate at Makerere and I had started working and in fact when I was at the University she would write to me asking me to counsel one of my sisters who was chased from one school to another and my other younger sisters were also going through the same. So she was asking them that, why are you not like your sister Sarah? She was writing to me requesting me to counsel your sister and write to her a letter. You were a living example
I was a living example, When I used to stay with my mother, I became a born again.I used to fast with her for 3 days, My real mother So sometimes she would say my child, I now believe that you are a born again. Then I asked her why, remember she had raised me in the fear of God but I wasn’t a born again. Remember she saw me when I was at the University and I had gone to her place, then she said to me that I have seen your behaviors, how you do things and now believe that you are saved. She now believes that university students get saved.
Even when I got saved I didn’t tell my mother but she was able to notice that I had gotten saved. Thank God your mother was able to see you become a born again when she was still alive. Did you stay with Stella? Yes I stayed with her and we completed Makerere. By the way I got a problem, one year I got suprimentaries and I was told to repeat. In fact thank God you have mentioned it. Becoming a born again came with two things. That year after getting saved, I came and reported knowing that I have come for third year. We found the lists well displayed and they were asking us to go back to year two and we were about 15 students.
In fact students petitioned and later the University accepted them to go for third year and by the time they accepted us to go for third year they had already gone for one term. I came back as a born again and everyone I would tell that am now a born again would give me 6 months and said it will only last for 2 weeks and others gave me one month. The one who gave me much time was 6 months. But God planted in a fellowship. I was in the fellowship of the faulty on Wednesday lunch time, I was in the CCE evening fellowship. I would go to main Christian union on Friday and Sunday for 2 days and every time I would hear of a fellowship, I would make sure that I go for it.
The year 1995 academic year 1996, I didn’t do a lot of academic work because I had two papers and I had finished second year and the work load was very small so, I used that time to pray. So you dedicated the time to prayer, I became a strong born again Christian that year and by the end of 1996, I knew more of Jesus, I had the word, I knew what God needs from me and what he hates. God helped me a lot, (AYF) Anglican Youth Fellowship choir, I don’t know if you have heard of it, by the grace of God, a girl who was born in such a family, Anglican Youth Fellowship started to research about me and the family that I come from and who my parents are and my poor background as I have shared it with you.
That was a major turning point. You have to preach the gospel all over the country and outside country. In fact my first trip to Britain came through AYF. We would sit in service at All Saints church and preach in the morning service up to the end. God placed in preaching the gospel and I became strong. Did you preach it where you were asked to go and where you were not? We would go to Fort Portal, Mbarara and in the East and preach to all secondary schools and I saw students getting saved in big numbers of 200 and 300. I think that’s the time I got so firm in salvation. Let me say this, I think God knew me. There is nothing and I had nothing good but for me it has only been God. He would lead you from one direction to another and make you a victor. When you asked me these things is when I realized that it was like a torch from heaven, it has been God. I went to Luwero and did my school practice in Katikamu SDA S.S and they offered me a job. Oncourse we were about 15 science teachers and we did our school practice and they retained the best, so I stayed.
God helped me because I had spent like 6 months at that job, and I lost my parents at once, Dad passed away in the morning from Fort portal he got stroke and then mummy had come to care of her sister who was admitted. Yes, for me she is my mum
Let everyone listening know that mummy abwoli was my step mother but me I considered her as my mum. So mum was looking after my sister when she was admitted in Mengo but by the time she was discharged, mum had developed Pneumonia So we left Mengo on Wednesday and mum was admitted in Nsambya on Thursday and that morning before she told dad that she had been admitted, Dad died of stroke that morning when he was in the bathroom. At home there were two children, one had sat for S.4 in Nabisunsa and another boy, so for them they saw Dad breathe his last. When they told us the news we refused to tell mum because she was very sick and we also asked the doctors not to tell. So I went and picked the kids from their school in Buddo and I proceeded to Fort Portal to organize for burial.
Then my brother on mum’s side and the sister stayed with mummy in the hospital but the sister started complaining that Sarah they have all gone and I have been left alone to take care of mummy but my brother remained silent. In the evening at around 6pm as they were giving her a drink, mummy breathed her last.
I arrived in Fortportal at around 11pm in the night and I made a phone call in Kampala, I was there and Dad’s body is also there. When they all came home, I asked them who had stayed with mummy in the hospital and they replied that they had kept her body in the mortually. I fainted. It was too much for me. We had to wait for mummy’s body that arrived on Saturday and we buried both of them on Sunday and the chapter of our parents closed. We were ten children, 5 of us had completed school and the other 5 children of my stepmother were still in school. But because our step mother welcomed us, we grew up and stayed together. You grew up connecting well with each other? People who grow up in the same house usually have good relationships because if you see me and my step sister who is two months younger, She was so good to me when we were growing up and we love each other so much that you can’t even tell that we are steps. So we stayed together for 5 years and it’s now 21 years but we are still together and our elder brother who is an engineer was a pillar to us.
We do things together, simple though we got some external help but we have grown up together. Marriage came later I finished University, my father forced to go for a post graduate diploma in teaching. So you came out as a teacher? Yes because the under graduate I had studied was Bachelor of Science & Bio-Chemistry. So when he told me about doing teaching, I really didn’t like the teaching course. But my dad came from Fortportal to Makerere and picked the form and brought it for me at my brother’s home. But because from the beginning I was a compliant child, I couldn’t refuse to apply, so I applied. It was God who made this way for me but I couldn’t see it at that time. But after I had finished filling the form, my father took it back to Makerere and this was also a surprise to me. He said you were on government sponsorship for your bachelors but I will pay for your post graduate diploma. I stayed at home praying that I don’t get an admission at Makerere. But as I was waiting, I received an admission letter from Makerere when I have been offered an education course.
So I went to Makerere and did my education course and then for my teaching practice I went to Katikamu SDA in 1999 and by 2000 I was given a job as a graduate teacher for Biology and Chemistry O& A ‘level and I took it on because I didn’t have a job.
Because I was just coming back to sit at my brother‘s home. Its fine my brother could take care of us and he could afford but it was not right so I stayed at work. So March 2000, both my parents passed on and I had just started working. Remember I told you earlier that I was in the Anglican Youth Fellowship choir. In that choir God had given us a platform for preaching the gospel in the church of Uganda. We would just mention Anglican and they would all welcome us as long as it was church of Uganda. And because it was started by Rev Benon Mugalula, so really it had started in the province, and so all churches welcomed us. So I got a chance to preach the gospel and I became strong in that ministry. I used to teach from Monday to Friday, it was an Adventist school so we never used to teach on Saturday. So I would come to Kampala and do the ministry and we would finish on Sunday and then in the evening I get on a taxi and go to Luwero and that was my life every week.
But that was God, I was a member of St Francis and I joined the young workers, remember we had studied together at Makerere and I found the boyfriend already saved. But one day, my sadness increased, his mum was walking by the road and she me she saw me standing with the son, but she didn’t like me and when the son told her that this is Sarah ,the friend I was telling you about but she said it in his face that she doesn’t like me. The good thing was that He also listened to the mother and the relationship ended there. And by then I was a friend Sam, the engineer I got married to later. Sam had a woman at that time who was so beautiful. As you know when you all pray from the same church, you always know each other. So really, she was such a beautiful girl and with good manners. So He was dating that girl and I was also dating a young man who was also saved and Sam Knew the man I was dating and I also knew that He was dating that beautiful girl. because we were all in the same fellowship in St Francis church So after some time my relationship ended and when we met with Sam that day, He asked me what had happened because I didn’t look happy at that time. We would meet like once in 3 months and we would sit at St Francis church under the mango tree and we talk.
Like brethren’s, he was my friend I would talk to deeply once in like 3 months. So He asked me Sarah as you’re not happy these days what is wrong? How is your friend? Then I told him that me and my friend had separated and then he asked what my friend had done to me.
I then told him that he didn’t do anything wrong but it wasn’t ok with the family. So, you knew that the family didn’t like you? That man was a very good friend of mine and a saved one indeed, so he could not lie He was so open He told me, and he did so because he was in pain and I was also in pain. But it’s good to listen to your parents, so I respect the mother’s decision really And his decision as well.
And his decision, ofcourse it hurt me, it was really hurt. I loved him and he loved me and we were friends who had been saved and walked together. So I felt like I had made a big loss. At that time
And I also realised that at that moment you can be feeling a lot of pain because I also went through it. So when I told my friend Sam, But he also answered very well and He told me that Sarah you are a good girl and God will give you a good man. Just forget about it and know that it’s over and have peace. His relationship was still on and I didn’t have a problem with it because deep in my heart, I never wanted to marry a mukiga man. Our viewer, Sarah is born in Toro and the husband is from Kabale and he is a mukiga. So initially she never wanted to cross to that side but it was God’s plan, He made Sarah marry Sam, mukiga man she never intended to marry and now they have been married for 17 years. Sam was a person of integrity; a young man in the fellowship who couldn’t go for bad girls and that wasn’t in his character completely. But even me I wasn’t interested really, even if my relationship had ended but I didn’t want to go to Kabale.
You were ready to wait? Very, because those were my principles
I left and went to the UK with AYF and we started ministering there and I stayed and also did other things but later when I came back to Uganda we met and then I asked him like you would ask your friend that, how is your girlfriend? Just because really it was the normal way. Then he replied that he doesn’t know And because you know someone from the fellowship, so you even have the right to rebuke them. I told him that it’s not good to have a girlfriend and you don’t even know how she is doing. It’s your responsibility and I was advising him as a brethren. What you have started doing is not good. Whats wrong with her? Do you call her and she doesn’t answer, but I was saying all these things while he’s looking at me. After listening to me, he said give me some time, I will tell you. And a week later he told me that the girl had left him. For the time I had known Sam, I felt like the girl friend had made a mistake. Why? Because Sam was a man who used to walk in the light and a man of integrity and even today I have spent 17 years with Sam but he still a straight man.
I would, even today I would. Sam does a job of a Bio Medical engineer in the cancer Institute on the Project of the African Development Bank. Projects have a lot of money and when they come; the first thing people think about is taking way the money. And because he’s an engineer his budget is always big. Like that machine of the linear accelerator that is used to treat cancer was better than the machine we had, from the first word of writing, ordering and preparing the tenders for that project, it’s my husband. He has the technical expert.
So like others, they would like to be near such a person so that they get something from him but he dodged all of them including the manufacturers but he dodged them while driving a UAF, Sam is a person of integrity and the things that press him, press me as well. We would sometimes lack money and then how do you put a child in an in International School that you can’t afford. Because your husband cannot not steal the money and also his salary can’t afford it but it’s okay. But God had to prepare me for that kind of man and for that kind of marriage.
If I hadn’t come with strong values, I would have left Sam .But when I walked I saw Jesus, in that project I testify that Sam didn’t make any margin on the purchase of that machine and even the rest that are in the pipeline, if he’s given the opportunity to continue serving, I am sure that we will be having better cancer equipment machines in this country and we need them. He has the expertise and he also has the heart. And their director in the cancer was also a straight man so he did have problems with him at all. He wouldn’t force a particular supplier on him and he would ask him to find the best supplier. Lets pray that the lord keeps there as ambassadors For sure we have been his ambassadors but we are surviving by prayer. But any way that’s the kind of man I was going to get married to. So when the other relationship ended. Not immediately, it took like 2 years and then our relationship started. And because Sam was straight he cried and was hurt and there is even a time, He decided to go to Kabale because of the pain he was going through and he took a taxi and went up to his mother’s place in Kabale.
So the mother kept looking at him but he wasn’t saying anything. She said to him that if you really came for a holiday then you shouldn’t have come. She then asked him what was wrong. And he told her what had happened. The mother replied to him that my son, if that’s what has happened, then God has a better woman for you and am sure you will be able to find her. It was 2 years after his past relationship. Ofcourse we were always together in fellowship, in ministry work and also attending retreats together but me I wasn’t interested in a Mukiga, am being honest. But at that time Sam used to call me Sarah and he would introduce me to people as his sister and I was comfortable .A man who is honest and calls you sister, I wouldn’t even think of him asking me to be his girlfriend. So he came, He had feelings for me but his interest was to either find a Munyankole or a mukiga, that’s what he had asked God. So he said to himself that, this lady has all the qualities apart from her tribe and since she is a Toro, when she speaks my people will understand. When He put it before the lord, he got peace and he proposed. He said Sarah you’re my sister but I can’t hold my feelings for you anymore and so am going to ask you to be my wife.
I answered him very clear that Sam, if everything else has failed and God has given me Sam as my husband, then I will marry you.
In fellowships there people who call themselves born agains but their actions doesn’t reflect it at all. You would see it even if someone doesn’t tell so. So from that day Sam said that Sarah since you have accepted to be my wife, I love you so much and I respect you and I promise not to sleep with you until we have officially wedded. That was 2003 in the month of May and then we got married in 2004 in the month of April, 11 months from start to wedding and we were old enough because I was 29 and he was 30. So we started discussing about it and we agreed on the program that we shall go for a blood test and then I said that God you are great, this man has accepted to do a blood test. The Blood test were good and we decided to do a second one after 3 months .The technology was not advanced like today where we inform you within a few hours that the tests are accurate.
After 3 months we did other tests and they were fine we told our parents and when I took him to my mother, She didn’t mind. Remember I had lost my Dad, but my father and step mother had passed on. They died in 2000 So when we went to Kabale, I remember Sam taking me home, and his mother said to him that, I don’t know the woman and I have studied as a teacher in Toro but I can’t say that I know them that much. But you that I have taken on as my daughter in law; I know you and trust you because if you chose Sarah as your wife then you must be right. She asked about my parent’s death and what could have been the cause of their death because she wanted to find out whether they died of HIV or that I could also be positive, whatever but she had the right to know. She got to know that the lady who was going to be married in her family was born by a woman who was not married in her father’s home. But for her, she gave birth to 9 children from one man and so it’s a family without steps. So, but still she accepted me and I thanked God for it because when I was growing up, I wanted to have a mother in law that I would connect well with and that’s what I had asked God for.
And that she also asked God to give her a daughter in law who will give her peace and she also vowed to take care of her as her child.
I got on the bus to Kabale without Sam and I stayed at my in laws’ home for two weeks and I had a lot peace there. They are there, my parents in -law are alive, God has kept protected them and they are about to celebrate their golden jubilee and am praying to God that it happens because really it’s by grace. But my mother in law grew up in a teacher’s home where she grew up as a Christian completely. She then came in a home that was not God fearing where she gave birth to 9 children who all got saved and this brought light in the home of my father in law. So like you can find wrangles within family members who are not believers Like those who are not born again They tried to fight her so much but she overcame. It wasn’t easy for her but she managed to stay in the home. In fact one time she came to our home when we were like one year married and said, Sarah my son is so quiet like his father but for whatever problems you will encounter in this family, I beg you not to leave.
I was a young girl and I even started laughing and when she left I asked myself why Mum was telling me all this. My husband is so quiet like my father in law. And when a man is so quiet, his relatives tend to undermine his wife. But even though my husband was so quiet, really my husband protected me. He would tell them that Iam protecting the Mutoro, I don’t know much about her family but I want to be patient with her. So he has been a protector to me Like making the Bakiga local millet drink challenges me a lot. I like it and I enjoy drinking it but making it is the problem. I don’t know where I make the mistake. One time it comes out well and the other time it fails completely. But there’s something you said and I want you to emphasize it. You agreed with Sam to get married, but you didn’t sleep together until marriage we didn’t and I testify
But we added, because we were old enough we prayed and talked about it and asked ourselves that what brings down a born again Christian, so we decided to walk in the light. So going to my boyfriend’s home and we be together alone, meeting in private, hugging and kissing, were all banned. You agreed that you have to wait until the right time There was no hugging and kissing and I used to wash and cook for myself, so he would not die if he washes and cooks for himself too and so I wouldn’t go to his home. Until we are married officially. We would meet in public, like we would go to Piato and eat, ok Piato wasn’t there but we would go to public restaurant for example we would go to Sheraton and take tea in public. The previous day he had called me for lunch and his sisters were around. So when I went to the sink to wash hands, he was behind watching me but I have grown fat and nice figure has disappeared. But I had a nice body and he was walking behind me as he was escorting me, he said to me, I want us to walk in the light because what I have seen with other fellow brethren wasn’t good. Really I got an attraction which I didn’t want to continue. Like those things of inviting me home because his friends are around and so we decided to put an end on that and I was happy because that was my prayer.
So I wouldn’t wash his friends shirts and he never wanted me to do it and I also praised God for that. We got married and he kept his promise and really Sam was moving well because their mother raised them well in a way that I can’t even describe. My five sisters in law have got married when am watching. They were all married off from their home. The one who is not yet married is their young sister, the last born who is about to complete her law course and she works with the Refugee Council. So they all live simple decent lives. But I think it’s my mother in law’s seed The prayer of cancelling the curse of being born from a woman who wasn’t your father’s legal wife. my three brothers work for the UN. My mother’s sons, the boys who were born in the home of a woman who wasn’t a legal wife have graduated and the elder son George got married to Josette and they have 4 children and no other child elsewhere. Jimmy moved in together with Julie and they in live in Akright, they have five children with one woman and one man.
I also got married to Sam, we have four children and Sam has never brought any other child home. In fact I normally tell my friends that if God calls me and I have left this life, my children are still young and therefore my husband deserves to get married. Because has kept the promise. If God calls me, I pray for Sam to find another woman to marry because there is no reason for him to stay single, why? He has played his part. But now I understand his prayer, I know you going to ask me that what about their last born, their last born got a child from another woman but later he got another woman and married her. There is no other child in my brother’s home but the child he had with the first woman. If my brother had walked as a born again, God would have guided him. Either he would have married the first woman or he would be childless. Because it was like that prayer was hidden in the rock and couldn’t die. So I was quiet while watching everything happening. And she is now a big girl of 12 years but there is no other child in my brother’s home. So, how is your journey with Sam, I understand you been married for 17 years now and even if they are not so many years but they are many for sure They are many years They are many really In the first 2 years, by the way I got married when am happy and with so much faith that my marriage will be good like any other girl.
I came in the home, and when I was doing premarital counseling those days, I told the girls and boys that what you see today and what you know is small, because a person has another side that you don’t know. So those are the trials that you can meet in marriage. So I go to Sam’s home, the person you would see in the morning, at night and so the words started. You would say something and he tells you there and then. Remember I was a mutoro who was raised by a muganda woman. The baganda don’t say and for us the Batoro have a saying that says that, let it not start with me. The Batoro don’t say, we cover So you have your peace generally He would say words that you would feel like they cutting through your heart. The Bakiga style I said to myself that I think this man doesn’t love me because if he really loved me, he wouldn’t be saying such things to me. I would pretend like its normal, but the anger I was feeling inside was like you swallow something and it goes up to the stomach and then it creates bitterness. And because of the bitterness I had, I wouldn’t even realize my wrongs, but I would only see the wrongs done by my husband.
So now I became confused and I became so unforgiving. It would be like narrating a story about him and everyone condemns him.
But when I told some of my friends, they told me that you don’t know men, let’s tell you who men are; all men drink, they all come back at night and sometimes they don’t, they keep bringing children to us and you hear that, he been caught from places that you don’t even expect him to be but does your husband do that? I said no, he doesn’t, then she said that just settle in your marriage. There is one girl who I studied with at Kyebambe S.S from S.1-S.6 and even at Makerere and up to today we are still friends, very tight. I told her the whole story, how I had packed my things in the suitcase and I told her that I was leaving. She instead laughed at me and even her stomach started hurting. Then I told her that, you are my friend and I shared my problems with you, thinking that you are going to help me but you just laughed at me She then said to me that Sarah, the devil has entered into your marriage and you don’t see that. Men do all sorts of things and your man doesn’t do any of that, but you still want to leave him. You need to go for the women conference. And in the women conference, God was so merciful to me in his word, because they were reading one scripture after the other and they were showing the bitterness and unforgiveness that can be in the home.
That man really taught us because he would give about 20 examples and I was doing everything at my home. I didn’t want anyone to say anything to me and by then I was pregnant for my first born. The mercy that God did for me in that conference that used to start at 11am in the morning and end at 5 pm and then I would go back home. But I didn’t tell you that after 2 months things changed and I asked myself what had gone wrong, I wouldn’t get annoyed easily, or quarrel and this helped me know that my husband was indeed staying with a terrorist and the whole ICC was sitting in my home. So when I got a chance to practice what I had learnt from the women conference, I realised how God had saved my marriage. Fine, Sam was a Mukiga, but I told him that It was okay to wait and say something after 3 days or a week but not saying it in her face, because it hurts your wife. So we used to go for the marriage fellowship at St Francis chapel every Friday and it was really a strong fellowship. So whatever bad behavior you couldn’t mention to your husband, the speaker would talk about it and that would make the wife feel good because her husband would be listening.
The next time they would bring another speaker who would talk about the bad behaviours of women and the men would also be happy about it and that’s how we managed our marriage. After 2 years, during that period of fifteen years the Lord gave us so much peace and the peace was coming from nowhere else but in Jesus. He took away all the sorrow that I had in marriage. You might ask me that since that time, haven’t you had any other issues, what are they? When you are going into marriage prepare so that when they come, they find you in Jesus They are some that first hit you, like there was one that we faced this year in the month of March, and that one almost killed me. So we got a small contract somewhere and we managed to supply it and we received money from it. We had one car at that time and all the years by the way. We bought it when we got our first child who is now 12 years. so generally we used to share the car in Kampala but it was disturbing and when we got that contract, I decided to buy myself a fielder car of about 25m and that would be good enough for me. Now by the time we got married, my husband was working for JMS and he was driving a land cruiser, the high one that is like an ambulance.
So like you would comment telling your wife that, this is my dream car but that dream car goes for money that is abnormal. Remember when you are moving well and you are depending on salary that money is not easy to come by, Though because we have a private firm which does Bio-medical engineering works once he had manufacturers whom he was representing ,so we got a deal and we supplied it and got money. And by the time the money came, the car was not in the plan. So I thought that may be he’s going to sell the old car and then add on some money and he buys a car that is worthy 40m or 60m. because women like expensive things and you can’t get satisfied. So I didn’t have that in mind, but for me I was comfortable with a simple car of 25m. When the money came, that very moment I saw a car in a very good condition, UBG the real dream car. He took it to people to evaluate it. So when he came, he said that he has something that he wants to put to the open
There’s sun that burns but this one was too hot, As you know the sun, that car I have seen it and I had not gone there but I have made a decision Iam going to buy it. I almost died. I almost died but he said that I know that you don’t like it and that I didn’t consult you first but anyway am not going to loose this opportunity. My brethren, I also fainted. I felt like my heart had sunk down and I even was fasting but I gave up the fasting and praying and I spent like a month without praying. But when I was in the sitting room reading my bible, God showed me clearly that I should separate what is precious from the non-precious. Your husband and the decision he has made of the car after he had waited for 17 years, because considering Sam’s job ,if he wanted to steal, he would buy the car he wants in just days. Those projects can have a lot of money but Sam wouldn’t steal it. He was always straight and the people who chose him to take on the project knew it. They would check thoroughly here and there but they would find that he has paid all the taxes well. He is that kind of person.
Then God told me that I gave you my son and you are a saved woman, you mean what he has done is too big to break your marriage? God told me that Sarah know the important things. You are not begging Sam to come back because he has gone outside countries but he has tried. Now I want you to take the wrong that Sam has done and admit that it was wrong and let it not make you miss out on all the other good things. In English we say that don’t throw the baby and the bathe water. You know when you’re bathing the baby in the basin and they urinate in the water, you say that the baby has made the water dirty; Do you get the baby, water and basin and throw them outside? God told me that Sarah remove your baby and pour the water outside. I said God no this cannot be, what you have asked to do is too much. But God told me that, you will be the one to ask for forgiveness. I said God why sincerely, I heard that voice That night, it was around 1 am in the night and I was seated in the sitting room, I got up and went to the bedroom, my husband was sleeping. I touched him and I told him that I wasn’t happy with the issue of the car, but I want to ask for forgiveness because I put the important things together with the non-important things and threw them outside.
But I ask you to forgive me, I know that what you did to me hurt me a lot but I also over reacted, but am asking you to forgive me. When I mentioned that word, I received grace instantly and he also got up and he said to me what he wanted to say and also asked for forgiveness. That was April, this year and the good thing is that they keep mentioning it that being born again is a daily thing. Don’t sit there and think that when you are born again nothing can put you down, the trials are many. I had seen that and I decided that even if Sam does what this time, I asked God to give me the grace to manage it. So that’s the way. My last word is in Psalms 139, but I can’t say it in Rukiga because I have just learnt this Language in my marriage. the whole of Psalm 139 is a powerful Psalm. The Lord knew us, right from verse 1 oh Lord you have searched me and you know me, when you continue down everything you read in Psalm 139 explains why you have to walk straight.
He knows you, and so you don’t have to hide, even if you hide under the bed, He is there and wherever you go, He’s there, so where has He given you space to do wrong? In verse 16, let me say it in English from verse 15 ‘My frame was not hidden from you, when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven in the depth of the earth, your eyes saw my unfold body and all days ordained for me were written in the book before one of them came. All that I went through, from my mum’s place to my Dad’s home , going to Kyebambe, to Makerere and taking so many years without getting married, but God knew about it . But the problem Brethren we tend to give ourselves time frames so that we first finish to do whatever we feel like ,for example we want to first enjoy adultery, buzzing and stealing , but God counts those years ,stop wasting them.